It's been a while since I've visited this site!
My dh and I are preparing to begin the adoption process and I wanted to hear an adoptees' perspective.
Our chances to conceive a child "in the old fashioned way" (I'm not going to say "natural" because it makes it seem that adopting is "unnatural"), is pretty minimal, but you never know what can happen.
What I was worrying about is how my future adopted child(ren) will feel if a biochild arrived in the family.. I've met a few birth mothers who have said that they refuse to allow their children to be adopted by couples who have bio children, because the adopted children will always feel 2nd place.
Of course, we plan to treat our children equally, whether bio or adopted, but I'm still wondering how such family dynamics will work.
Anybody have any thoughts or insight?
Anybody have advice on how I can ensure that my adopted child(ren) and bio child (if that ever happens) feel "equal"?
Thank You!
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Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying “this is the way; walk in it.”
Isaiah 30:21
December 2003 - Decided to adopt from Guatemala
10/15/05 Began
Baby Girl
2/23 "chiquitita" Referral
(dob 1/30)
April to August: Stuck in PGN
8/29 Pink
9/7 Embassy Appointment
9/10 Home!
Baby Boy
3/22 "chiquitito" Referral
(dob 2/25)
May to Aug: Stuck in PGN
8/23: Pink
9/7 Embassy Appointment
9/10 Home!