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Trying to move on...
My dh and I experienced a failed adoption last week. We had been in contact with the pbm for 4 months. We emailed, spoke on the phone and also visited in person.
I was present during the birth on Monday. DH was in the waiting room. She asked me to cut the cord. I gave the baby her first bath and also her first feeding. The first night in the hospital dh and I visited with her family and friends.
We visited her on Tuesday and she and DH worked on naming the baby. They both agreed on a name and that was the name that went on the birth certificate.
On Wednesday, she signed the papers for temporary placement and left the hospital.
We took Baby A to the hotel to wait for the final papers to be signed on Friday.
Thursday evening our agency called to say the bf changed his mind. His parents did not want him to sign the adoption papers.
He has a 2-year old that his parents have legeal custody of and also another newborn - just 7 weeks old.
We took care of Baby A in the hotel until Sunday. The agency called and told us to bring Baby A to her **. The ** could not afford to care for her as she already has an 18 month old daughter.
Now Baby A is with a ** who did not plan on parenting her and cannot afford her.
We were both devastated. We will always love Baby A and she will always be our first.
DH and I know there is a baby out there for us.
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