[lkconley]

We met our birth mother and thought we had a real bond. Of course, we helped her financially. She did ask for us at the birth and we hauled butt to get there. Unfortunately for my mental health, we got to hold and name the baby and spend two days with him. Our birth mother changed her mind the day we arrived with carseat to take the baby home. She wouldn't see us either, had hospital security guards tell us we couldn't go up to maternity floor. She even kept the name we picked.

After all this trauma, I'm happy to tell you that the pain does go away. But it takes awhile. We told our adoption agency that we would wait for a "stork drop" baby, where the initial papers were already signed. I could not deal with more birth mothers or the possiblity of another failed adoption. TWO months later--we got the call. A little baby was waiting to be picked up that day from the hospital. Our son is now thirteen months but sometimes I still cry for the welfare of the baby I didn't get to take home, if I let myself think about that horrible day.

You're gonna get your baby, the baby you were meant to parent. You're down, but not out!! If you trust your agency, keep going and you will get what you want.