[stephdpenn]

I usually only post on the China forum but your post really caught my attention. I am 'the baby' born from an affair. My father knew all along that I was not his bio child and that never matter, he loved me the same as my sister and brother. My parents divorced when I was 14 because he just couldn't get over what she had done for years & years. See her affair was not a one time thing it went on for at least 13 years. I am now 31 years old, married with 2 bio sons and we are adopting a daughter from China. When I told my dad of our plans his exact words were "I will love any baby and as far as blood goes you of all people should know that does not matter". I have no contact with my bio father for many reasons but the main one is I don't need him I have a father, a wonderful father. My dad has never treated me bad nor has his family (yes everyone knows). Anytime I need him he is there for me no matter what. I love him with all my heart and soul and am blessed to be able to call him dad.
I told you my story to give you a different point of view. I feel as long as your husband can get over this and you promise him and yourself to never do this again, things can work out.
If you would like to talk you can PM me anytime. I just gave you the short version of my story. I can give you a lot more insight into what a wonderful father you husband can be to that baby if both of you are willing.