[maddensmom]

I went through this too. Please don't forget about this forum too. It was a link for me to other mothers who were going throught he same thing. When I finally made time to come back here, I realized how very helpful these people could be.
Also, if I may, I really suggest you make time to go out with Emma. Even if you are tired, do it. You'll soon find, IMO, that you wind up with more energy to do the things you need to do after. And, Emma is sure to be whipped from such play. So, she should take a great nap.
I also containerizers my son's toys in big baskets. As long as things went back in a basket, any basket, I figured things were straight. I also had to work very hard to stop myself from feeling guilty about not spending every minute on the floor with him while he was awake. My son actually likes to play alone. Now some of that is due to an attachment problem, but I do want him to be able to play independently. So, I started structureing independent playtime into his day. It worked wonders. He was still plaing inthe same room, but he began to recognize that that was his time to play and Mom's time to work. I actually got him some toys that looked like kitchen utensils and brroms and such so he could pretend like he was helping. He liked that too.
And then... please try not to be too hard on yourself. I am sure you are a great mom. You care enough about this to seek advice here and that says a lot. Please just keep reaching out to whomever you choose and do the best that you can. That is really all any of us can do.
If there is anything I can do to help you in the future I would be more than happy to do so.
God bless.