[tobeafamily]

Navywife,

You are not alone in your decision. You have your partner, he must be a part of whatever is decided for your marriage to survive. You have this child's father, who, despite his personal issues, also has a say in what happens and a responsibility.

I say this because it is very important that both men be 'on board' with whatever does occur. If placement is the decision, it can only occur if both men consent - your spouse, who will be considered the 'legal parent', and the child's biological father. If either contest, the situation then becomes a custody battle, one that you alone cannot control. The biological father can petition for parental rights and be awarded them, along with custody. So be careful, do not disregard anyone in this situation.

So please, whatever happens, work towards a solution that all three of you accept. Getting there may be painful and may seem impossible at times. Remember though that most things are only impossible until they're possible.

Hang in there.

Regina