[catinhat]

OK, here are some details:

Birthmom is in GA. Birthdad is in FL. There is a 10 1/2 month old girl that is their child...birthmom got pregnant again by him, but by then the relationship was ending. He has not provided anything for the first child except 2 pr. shoes and a couple outfits, does not parent her at all, provides no financial support - nothing.

They were never married.

I had questioned the attorney about all this - putative father, that the publication doesn't work when you 'know' the father (even I have his address - it's no big secret), and I kept asking her if we needed an interstate compact, based on things I was reading. She kept saying we didn't need an interstate compact (we are in CO), she said that because we were coming to GA to finalize the adoption, we didn't need it.

Actually, I think our attorney is in the midst of a mental breakdown. Seriously. She got sick, quit returning our calls, then when hubby happened to get her on the phone the other day, she yelled at him - told him to shut up (!!!) and has been calling the birth mom and yelling at her (yet she refuses to return our calls). I have started shopping for another attorney and will be terminating our 'relationship' with her.

What we are expecting is what Casey has posted - he won't sign, but he won't contest either. That is his 'style'. As far as we know, he has 4, possibly 5 children, none of which he parents or is involved with. He doesn't mind if the moms struggle and raise them on their own - just doesn't want to sign anything. He isn't exactly an upstanding citizen, but he is the baby's biological father, so we will just have to deal with things, I suppose.

Thanks so much for the replies. I feel even better about our decision (just today) to find a different attorney.

-Catinhat