[DeNaJa]

That question to your husband is HORRIBLE! People can be total idiots! I have 2 bio kids and 1 adopted kid and 1 on the way. My husband has a special bond with our youngest (who is adopted). She is a complete Daddy's Girl! He ADORES her! He has a bio daughter and he loves her tons, but there is just a special place for our youngest. When we are putting all the kids in the van for a trip, she is on his side and the others are on mine. After she is in her seat and the door shut, before getting in his seat, he will open the door, give her a kiss and THEN we can go. She gets sooo excited! I don't think people get that they are ALL your children. You don't think about it the way they do. They are not posessions, but people! People you LOVE and adore more than your own life.

Also, I would agree that adoption is NOT the easy way! It has been the most emotional experience of my life! I tell people who make ridicuous comments that I may not have had physical labor with her, but I had months (more than a year) of emotional labor!