I was adopted in 1968 or so I think, as was commen back in the day it was a closed adoption. I am now going on 41 and have been struggleing with depression. I decided to get some "professional" help when I started feeling like there was nothing to live for. As I started telling my story to the psychologist he stopped me and said " I think you suffer from attachment...

She could try to contact local DSS and place the baby through there.

Wow, it never occured to me this would be such a hot topic. I breastfed my 2 sons and have thought about trying to breastfed an adopted child but never really thought the emom would care. I guess I am really open one way or another if the emom was opposed. I'd rather do it but I wouldn't want to to be the deal breaker to someone. What about pumping and feeding the baby? Does that have the...

We are $4000 into the project! Thanks to all who have supported the efforts to this point! This puts us that much closer to the $35K needed...and we will get there!

I had to go into denial about my son's birthday for at least the first 5 years maybe 10. I was in such denial I'm not sure how long that lasted! I was doing really well since then until his 18th birthday just a few months ago. I think it's normal that our ability to cope with adoption waxes and wanes. If you need to cope with her birthday by being in denial then that is OK. I hope next year...

She could try to contact local DSS and place the baby through there.

Quote: Originally Posted by mom2justynsarah My husband is an adoptee. We had a 6 year old bio son before embarking on the adoption road. At the end of 2004, we were blessed with our beautiful little girl. She was brought into our lives through the miracle of infant domestic open adoption. It's a wonderful experience being able to create a family not just from blood, but...

I just wanted to leave you some encouragment~~~coming from one birthmom to another. I hope & believe that you will one day find your child. I placed my daughter in 1993. I know and have read about adoptions that took place back in the 60's & 70's were done "in the dark" where little to no infomation at all was shared. Keep us posted.

She could try to contact local DSS and place the baby through there.

I like Crick's idea. In writing, which makes it easier to control the emotions. And I'm sorry. I know you've predicted this for T, but it's got to hurt to have yet more confirmation.

When little man (20 mos) started having unsupervised visits with his dad he did the same thing....those screams that would wake the dead are scarrrryyy as crap... I really thought something was wrong with him. He always took naps without any problems and the day after his unsupervised visit he screamed when I put him down so bad that I just knew he had somehow figured out how to get out of his...